Death is not the greatest loss  in life. the greatest loss is what dies within us while we live.”  So said Norman Cousins. The recent terror attacks have left many families broken-hearted. Following the death of someone close, many of us feel that life has lost its meaning and convince ourselves that we’ll be miserable for the rest of our lives. We can successfully overcome these natural reactions… Here’s How :

• Grieve naturally. Cry, both in public and in private. The faster and more fully you can express your pain, the sooner you will be able to get on with your life.

• Expect to pass through several stages as your grieving progresses: shock, disbelief, denial, painful sadness, emptiness, anxiety, irritability, guilt, anger and preoccupation with memories of the deceased.

• Express any anger you experience because the person has left you. If you feel, “Why did you do this to me?” don’t be ashamed to shout it out.

• You must recognize that the person who left you would be upset at the thought that you intend to stop living. Think about the millions who have survived bereavement. Know that you will, too.

• Remember that you will always have your memories to keep this person alive in your heart. In this way, his or her powerful influence on you will never end.

• Talk to others who have faced loss, and ask them to share their experiences. Join or start a support group. (more…)

Do you know how to be happy ? Life has a lot to give as well as take. But to be happy most of the time is what matters. This makes you face obstacles with more confidence. Read on to find out how to be happy…

Paying your EMIs, feeding the family and paying for the odd treat is getting tough as bills soar. You’d think that coping with the credit crunch would have us all sick with worry… But, in fact, we’re doing really well — fitter, stronger, healthier and living longer. “Life expectancy is so good that eliminating all accidents and infectious diseases would only raise it by a further two years,” says Prof Steve Jones, of University College London. Most of us are warm, well-fed and healthy. Are you still feeling miserable? Try these to be happy… (more…)